If they cannot help it doesn’t mean they are not our well-wishers, they themselves are feeling helpless, and that’s all

If they cannot help it doesn’t mean they are not our well-wishers, they themselves are feeling helpless, and that’s all

My neighbor said, “My child expressed grief over my job loss, and offered prayers to God for our well-being. That’s all she could do, at that time, being just infant who just started talking and Indian etiquette. What more can I expect from her? What could she understand from job and job loss? She could help in that fashion only”.

Some one said, “Look, who is helping you, none. Can this child help you?”

At that time, I intervene and said, “If they cannot help it doesn’t mean they are not our well-wishers, they themselves are feeling helpless, and that’s all!”

Hearing this answer, the, boy himself, who is also a well-wisher, was stunned.

It happened many a times.

Once, our neighbors son went for fighting on Indo-Pak border with militants, many retired soldiers were watching the news and said, “We feel sorry about your son getting injured…”..etc. The soldier himself said, “Its part of routine….It’s the person on the front-line who has to take more bullets, and it’s very common for us.”…Thus there are many who think, even if they cannot help and still its part of lives even though they are well-wishers or in fact parents or relatives, as they feel, it’s the profession that is selected by the person demands so much risk to lives. Of course, in case, we can protect them, we will.

There are so many cases, that, the page would be insufficient to express the public views on this issue.

Parents teach everything but the child himself has to appear for the exams, and they offer prayers to god when child writes the exams in India.

If a person is undergoing treatment, many well wishers offer prayers to God and many a times, the person never knows that.

Many a times, seniors just offer blessings to the on going person on exams, or on front or for most important work…by that way they show they are well-wishers too…sometimes vibes show that someone is showing s/he is against us, but, at the end s/he helps in such a fashion that at the end we come to know how indirectly that person has helped us….

Thus, there are many ways to help a person and show we’re well-wishers than just actually taking part in some/ same activity; it may be due to our helplessness or due to some other issues. 

Dr. Ashish Manohar Urkude, India