My mother and other elders and oldies feel that children can flourish well in case they are really cared and groomed.
Each Child can be compared as a seed of a giant tree.
Take example a tiny seed of Banyan tree or a Peepal tree. If the seed is sowed well in nourishing and lively soil, then watered well, taken care from whether and environment, then it grows fast. Once it starts growing it has taken care from thieves, animals, rain, other damaging sources, it can reach its full bloom stage. However, once it attains certain little height you have to put a barricade or cage around it to protect it.
Once it starts growing faster you have to provide fertilizers, insecticides, pesticides.
You have to consult experts once it takes a shape to keep its growth going.
Some unwanted weeds may develop around it, which care takers have to remove it.
Some unwanted growth from unwanted side is there, then you have to chop off it immediately otherwise it may hurt other plants, or surroundings.
You have to keep discipline for nourishing the plant that has grown from seed, with fertilisers and by proper watering. Otherwise it may die un-natural or natural death.
Thus, you have to devote your lot of time to take care and let that seed take a shape and grow as giant tree so that it can become a shelter for next generation entities.
Thus, when we compare this scenario with growing children imagine what can add growth to the children and what stalls their growth and what destroys them, then naturally you have to take children into confidence and build their confidence to make them help for self sustained and their own self generated growth. There could be auto-pilot fitted into their mind on how to grow themselves.
Dr. Ashish Manohar Urkude,